Little tricks can make anything less complicated: from cooking to flying into space. The same goes for people’s relationships. Do you want to teach your child to talk to others? Or make a quiet person talk? You are not the only one. Reddit users reveal some little tricks that help them every day.
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I prefer to ask, “What questions do you have?” instead of “Do you have any questions?” It turns out that the first leads to questions and the second to silence.
Be kind, even to unpleasant people. There is something charming about the transition from someone who is angry to someone who is in a better mood.
I am a professional poker player. During games, I try to make my opponents laugh while I think about my next move. Laughter makes them less likely to brag.
Do you want people to love you? Then ask them for a small favor like “Can you hold my pen for a second?” Will that make their brains think they like you because why would they help you otherwise?
First, ask for something you definitely won’t get, and then ask for something you really want. It’s called the “face door technique.”
I worked in advertising and my boss taught me to make a small but noticeable mistake on the first draft before I approved it. Customers will notice the mistake, ask you to fix it, and feel good about it. Now I work as a freelancer and when I have difficult clients, I make some mistakes on purpose. Always works.
I picked this up from a friend of mine. He used it every time he tried to figure out where to go to dinner with his girlfriend: instead of asking, “What do you want?” and you get the typical answer, “I don’t know, nothing…” and then, having rejected the suggestions, you start with: “What do you NOT want?” I have used this a few times in some of my relationships and it is the question of the gift of God.
Be direct and ask specific people when you need something. Instead of asking, “Does anyone have a pen?” asks “Who has a pen?” And to ask someone to call 911, say “Okay, you’re wearing the blue jacket, what’s your name? All right, Tom, call an ambulance.
I currently manage about 240 people between 6 restaurants. It’s often hard to get them to do what needs to be done, but I’ve found that saying “I need your help” is enough to get them involved. People want to feel needed and like they are making a difference. Expressing that to them makes all the difference in the world.
If someone is upset or angry, just say, “This is completely understandable.” It gives them a win and diverts their emotions away from you because you understand and can be on their side.
Which of these tricks do you find most useful and why?